Unleash the Pink #8

Welcome back!

It has been 2 weeks since the last edition of Unleash The Pink. I hope you are still keeping up with your Sexy fun loving self and allowing her to poke out every now and again! We have been working on these exercises for just over 8 weeks now; I suspect you may have noticed a tad bit more confidence in yourself? Although you may not be strutting around with your enitre head of hair pink at this point, I do believe you would be willing to clip a pink strip in and walk shamelessly around the grocery store, right?

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This week I PINKY DARE you to focus your energy this week on building your confidence in how you treat other people. For the next seven days, anytime you find yourself feeling negative, bad, ugly, mad or the like, take a moment to look around you. Find the nearest person and really look at them. Find something positive and wonderful about them and compliment them on it. If that mean and horrible teacher is always in a bad mood and never cracks a smile, but always is dressed lovely, tell her. Even the worst of people, the nastiest attitudes and ugliest hearts have some positive qualities about them. when you can see these positive pieces hidden beneath a harsh surface of another person, you yourself will find you are more likely to see the bright side and therefore feel more happiness resulting in a boost of confidence. Now go ahead, I PINKY DARE you to try it for 7 days.

Unleash the Pink #7

Yesterday while I was reading some of my favorite blogs, I happened across a post from Kara @His, Hers, and Ours. Kara posted this lovely email she received. I read through it and tears came to my eyes. This single email sums up everything I want Unleash the Pink to bring out for myself and everyone and anyone who reads and/or participates in. I love this. Thank you so much Kara for this post, it couldn't have come at a more perfect time.

So this week I am stepping out of the box and I PINKY DARE you to read the following passage, read it thoroughly, read it with a full open mind and heart. Then take with you what you need from and it and leave behind what you don't. Good luck!

READ THIS VERY SLOWLY.... IT'S PRETTY PROFOUND.
Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.

I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.
How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word 'refrigeration' mean nothing to you?

How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched 'Jeopardy' on television?

I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, 'How about going to lunch in a half hour?' She would gas up and stammer, 'I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain.' And my personal favorite: 'It's Monday.' She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.

Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!

We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained.
We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet.
We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.

Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of 'I'm going to,' 'I plan on,' and 'Someday, when things are settled down a bit.'

When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Roller blades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.

My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-Decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.

Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to......not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?

Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why.

Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
Do you run through each day on the fly?
When you ask ' How are you?' Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head?
Ever told your child, 'We'll do it tomorrow.' And in your haste, not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say 'Hi?
When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away..... Life is not a race.
Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.
'Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!

Unleash the Pink #6

We have been at this Unleash the Pink Challenge now for 6 weeks. How are you feeling? Are you still using your collage board to focus in on some of the important attributes and characteristics you would like to develop within yourself? Have you improved on your vices, eating less? Exercising more? Are you making sure to SPARKLE every day?

Unleash the Pink is meant to help you remember that you DO have a sexy fun loving woman inside hidden under the mom title. You can still have fun, be empowered, be sexy, laugh and love life to the fullest even with a baby on your hip. The challenges set forth in the PINKY DARES are set up to be fun, challenging and thought provoking, but most of all to help you and inspire you to bring out that sexy fun loving hot momma hidden under the burp cloths!

This last week I asked you to recall 3 wild and crazy events in your history and evaluate them. Did they help shape who you are today? Would you repeat the behavior you exhibited in these events now? Why or why not? Either answer you give will ultimately help you see that this event has shaped you in one way or another. It helped you become the fascinating woman you are today. Without these events you would not have gained the experience, the knowledge, the memories, good or bad, and therefore would not house within yourself the ability to learn from these experiences.

Many of you have said you are not ready yet to share with the world these events from your past. I can totally understand that. I totally respect that, however, I am going to going to take the lead, begin to lay the path and stand up, Pink Hair Flowing and let the world hear my 3 wild and crazy events. When you are ready, sometime in the future, share with me yours.

1. The day I left college (round 1) and moved back to Houston to live with my boyfriend. I guess I should have known this would end in disaster, when en route as I happened upon Huntsville, a police barricade of the freeway stopped me and my poor cat in the Hot May weather of Texas in our tracks, as the police searched the area for an escaped convict with a gun. Nice. RED FLAG!! But you know what I was worried about most, and please remember this was before cell phones and TIVO, I was upset that I was going to arrive late and miss 90210! Priorities!
2. After a particular unruly Christmas with the family, I decided at the ripe age of 27 I would throw away my single life in the city and buy a home in suburbs, all by myself. After arriving home to my single apartment on December 28, I was approved, found, bought and moved into this house before Valentines Day. WOW! Huge life changer and so fast.
3. The day my daughter was born. By far, this was the wildest most crazy experience I had ever and still have ever encountered. It has definitely changed my world forever.

Now on to the Frivolous PINKY DARE from last week. How many of you baked a pie and ate every bite of it? I hope that with each bite, you not only enjoyed the sweetness and delicious flavors, but that you also could taste your time, your passion and your energy. I hope that you were able to enjoy something YOU created. From the beginning of the recipe until the end, you were in charge. You decided how much flour, how much sugar, how much chocolate. You decided how long to bake the pie. You decided when and where you would eat the pie.

Well that is kind of like your life. YOU decide what ingredients go into your life. YOU decide what those ingredients will make up, and YOU decide when and where you will live your life. I really want you to think about this. If you want to be a sexy fun loving woman, YOU make that decision. YOU house the confidence to do so. YOU are a sexy fun loving woman and YOU must decide how to share that with your life. Ponder this and make it happen!

Unleash the Pink #6
You have heard reference a fabulous book here on Unleash the Pink before, I Am Diva! has some incredible exercises within its pages that really do help one build some confidence. This week I am taking our challenge directly from the I Am Diva! pages. It is too good a challenge and is so fitting in our path to being a Sexy fun loving woman that I could not come up with something better on my own. So here it is:

I PINKY DARE you to buy yourself a DIVA doll. Any doll you want as long as you like it. Now go and get the ugliest string you can find and cut it into about 12 inch pieces, each piece representing a rule in your world that needs to be broken. Now tie these string pieces around your special doll in various places. Think about the rules that each string represents. Think about why you follow these ridiculous rules. Every time you break one of these stupid daily rules you follow but are not sure why, break a piece of string and remove it from your doll. You are breaking and removing yourself from the rules that keep your from being a Sexy fun loving woman.

Frivolous PINKY DARE of the week is this: Wear your shirt or skirt inside out. See how many people take the time to let you know it is on inside out. When someone alerts you to this obvious mistake you have made, inform them that you are superstitious and that is bad luck to change the shirt once you have worn it inside out. Tell them you do not tempt fate. Watch their reactions and smile!



I am not affiliated in any way with the authors, book or any marketing of the book I Am Diva! . I just really enjoy the information within this modern day guide to living your life DIVA style. This book is just a tool in my research for Unleash the Pink, and a great tool at that.

Unleash the Pink #5

Welcome back to another Thursday and another round of Pinky Dares! How did this week go for you? Were you able to take on the characteristics of someone you admire and implement them into your own life for one day? How did you feel when doing so? Were you able to feel a difference knowing that you DO have these characteristics hidden inside you, ready to come out and play? And how about initiating that fabulous intimate moment with your significant other? How did that pan out? Well I sure hope you learned a lot from this exercise and that you were able to gain perspective on what you can and can not do within yourself.

I took the challenge and took on the persona of a friend of mine, unannounced to this person of course. In fact as I tell you about the characteristic I assumed, she may begin to notice herself. I stole the fabulous mommy characteristic from my friend. This individual is an amazing mother. She is so devoted and wise and is an envy to the kind of parent I dream of being. She once said in passing, she doesn't want to miss a single moment with her children, therefore the computer, the dishes, the laundry can all wait until they go to bed, or until forever as far as she concerned, as long as she is an active participant in life of her children. She said their happiness is her happiness. In not so many words. This is a major characteristic I want to gain. I want so badly learn to push everything aside and just enjoy the moment of my daughters laughter, even if those moments last 12 solid hours. I want to be able to look past my must have to do and enjoy the spur of the moment passions and cherish the time and love I have with my daughter. So for one day, I did. And it was AMAZING!! I threw away all cares of dishes, laundry, dust and computers and just basked in the glow of my daughter and all she is. I have never felt more happy and energetic than I felt this day. Thank you my friend for being an inspiration! I am now working to make this dream a permanent reality in my world!

Oh and I also took the frivolous challenge and surprised my H4L with a intimate moment. Which is a private moment between us and all you need to know is I took the challenge!


Unleash the Pink #5
This week I PINKY DARE you to take a long look at who you are and list out 3 times in your past where you have participated in a crazy, ridiculous something. Whatever it is, pick your top 3. ( i would love for those bold bloggers out there to share this on their blog and link back, but understand if you are not ready.) Now have a look at these 3 ridiculous events. Did any of these events provoke a you-ism? Can you see how these events although wild and wacky may have actually been a fabulous experience that matured your soul? In looking back have you chosen a wild and wacky moment in your history that helped define yourself today? Would you repeat these events? If you said no, re evaluate as to why it was acceptable in your past but is not now. What is so different from those wild days about you today?

Frivolous PINKY DARE of the week: Bake a pie from scratch and then devour the whole thing! Enjoy every bite of it and while you eat it focus on the fact that your time, money, energy and passion went into baking this deletable treat, kind of like your time, energy and passion go into making your life and yourself sexy, fun-loving and fabulous!

Unleash the Pink #4

Did you SPARKLE this week? How do you feel about it? Not so bad huh? Adding a little Sparkle to your day to day life can really empower you. It enables you to remember, even when the work piles high, the kitchen is a disaster, the kids wont stop crying, YOU still are a woman. You still have that sexy, fun loving chick inside you, despite everything going on around you. There is nothing wrong with scrubbing toilets while wearing hot pink lipstick and sparkly shadow on your eyes! You SPARKLE just because you are you!

So I wore sparkle on my eyes almost every day this week. And then if you looked really hard, you just might have found me pretending to be a Fun and flirty house wife with sparkle on my hair and DIVA style everywhere!!!

Unleash the Pink
Week 4:

A quote from Jessica Alba actually suits Unleash the Pink this week:

"My theory is that if you look confident you can pull off anything-even if you have no clue what you are doing."

I love this quote. I think it is absolutely honest and true. No matter what you are faced with you should approach the situation with confidence. You may not have confidence in the project you are undertaking, but you do have confidence in yourself. You can accomplish whatever life throws you, you just need to believe you can. And when you do not think you can, fake it. The confidence is there!

This week I PINKY DARE you to model your actions, personality and behavior after someone you look up to for an entire day. From sun up to sun down. I PINKY DARE you to take on the characteristic of this individual you find appealing implement them in your world and see what happens. Approach the day and all it throws at you with the confidence you have borrowed from your idol. It doesn't matter if this person is a family member, celebrity, cartoon, dead or alive. Just someone who you admire and who has the confidence you desire.

Frivolous PINKY DARE of the week: initiate an intimate moment with your significant other, something out of the ordinary for you, something new and exciting, something possibly your idol would do!

Unleash the Pink #3

So how are you doing? Are you working with your collage board and making small changes in the vice areas of your life? I sure hope so. Now that we have laid the ground work to unleashing the pink in all of us, we can get to the fun, wild and wacky unleashing!!!

This last week I brought to the forefront my need to reintroduce exercise into my daily life. No, I am not a marathon runner one week later, but I did plan and execute an idea that allows movement to enter my world. Every morning Baby DIVA and I have a "Morning Shake-up". I turn on an 80's CD and we dance around. Obviously this is a new event in our morning routine, and is was met with a little resistance. However, both Baby DIVA and myself quickly found this to be loads of fun and look forward to it each morning.

Unleash the Pink
Week 3:


I I stated above, now that we have covered all the important aspects of our self, we can finally get to the heart of Unleashing the Pink: The hidden dare devil, Sexy, Fun-loving chick inside of us! This week I PINKY DARE you to Sparkle this week. Pull out your make up bag and find that fun glittery eyeshadow, body glitter or lipstick you have stashed away. Quit waiting for that "special" time to wear it. NOW is that special time. Roll on the body glitter and then head to work knowing that your a Sexy, fun chick underneath your suit, glittering in the sunshine. Paint your eyelids with glimmer and batt shamelessly at the teenage sacker at the market. You will make his day as well as make yourself smile. Have a quiet dinner at home with your husband and come to dinner wearing that Spicy Red glitter lipstick you have had tucked away for vacation.

If you are ready, you may also either purchase of make your own Glittering Tiara. Wear your tiara out to run errands. People may stop and look at you, and that is wonderful. Let them take notice of this fearless, Sexy, Fun loving, SPARKLING woman!

Open up a little. Do not be afraid to be bold in your every day life. You do not have to wait for a special party or event to bring out the fun and wild chick inside of you. Allow her to be a part of your everyday happenings. Imagine the possibilities!

Baby DIVA has no problem displaying her SPARKLE!!

Unleash the Pink #2

So how did you do with your first week of Unleashing the Pink go? Did you complete your collage board? Have you been working on your qualities? Did you accept my PINKY DARE!!!? Did you learn anything about yourself that you didn't know? Please share your stories and accomplishments with me. Feel free to link back; the more the better, and it keeps you accountable! And girl, if you slipped, it's okay, share that too! We will make a martini and put a boa around your neck and get you back on track!



I do not expect that you will have designed and constructed your board and now house all the fine qualities you are striving for. Nope, not at all. I do think by spending this last week focusing on these qualities you have sparked a fire in yourself. You will be able to utilize this board from here on out as you grow as a person, an individual, a Sexy, fun-loving woman!



I would like to report that I had a productive week 1. I made my collage board and really focused on putting the qualities into my everyday life. I spent a lot of time planning and organizing my board. I thought about each quality and how I want in represented. Once my qualities were chosen I went to work constructing the collage to represent ME and what I want to gain from this experience.
*At the time of this writing blogger is not being cooperative in embedding a picture of my collage into this post. As soon as the problem resolves I will edit this post and add my collage picture in! Goodness Technical difficulties!!

However, I will mention the qualities I have pictorial represented on my board, since pictures are not possible right now!
I am going to focus on patience in all areas of my life, moving toward a healthy lifestyle: both physically and emotionally, learning new skills: crafts, cooking, mommahood, and I am going to work on intimacy, with myself and my H4L.


Oh and my frivolous daring adventure this week...I made a commitment to myself and kept it! I PINKY DARED myself to get up, get dressed, fix my hair and do my make-up every single day this week; even if all I had planned was toilet cleaning and Baby DIVA playin'! I am happy to report I conquered dare 1! How about you?


Well lets get to it...

Week 2:

We now have our collage board and can begin to focus on different qualities we want to improve in our life. This is a wonderful step to improving the emotional side of our Sexy, fun loving self. Now we also need to implement some techniques to help with the physical side of our Sexy, fun loving self. We all know that mommyhood can definitely draw out the "ugly" side of our appearance; sweat pants covered in spit up, no make-up, no time to brush the teeth, you know the facts. Our collage board coupled with steps to improve our physical image of ourselves will enable the Sexy, Fun loving chick in all of us to begin to grow and mature and be strong enough to Unleash the Pink!

What are your physical vices? Do you eat like a crazed teenage with a supersonic metabolism, only your metabolism is not so super sonic? Do you hunt down the closest parking spot to maximize your ability to get no exercise? Are your drawers and cabinets so cluttered you need a hard hat each time you open them? Well these types of physical means, whether on our person or in our physical space, can contribute to the demise of our Sexy, Fun Loving self. Unhappiness in our physical appearance is a huge culprit in making us lack confidence, but unhappiness in our physical surroundings can yank us down too. Don't overlook this little bully. So we need to whip it in to gear. We all know this is not an overnight fix, well at least I hope we all know this. Nope instead we are going to slowly start making changes to our physical vices and couple that with our already in place use of our collage board for our emotional self. The emotional and physical changes that result from these exercises help us to lay a solid foundation for out Sexy, Fun Loving self to emerge, with Hot Pink Hair!!!

This week take your vice and make a change. If you normal live on a diet on Coney dogs with extra cheese, then switch to turkey dogs and half your usual cheese mound. If you are a parking lot stalker looking for the closest spot to the door to avoid walking, this week park about halfway out in the parking lot at least once, and walk into the store. Just a little step. Don't expect this week to go and change your diet so much that you only must survive on tofu. No No No! That will not help bring our Sexy Fun loving self back. Think about why you only eat coney dogs drenched in mounds of cheese; think about why it is you want to bring your Sexy, Fun Loving self back. Then have a look at that coney dog and figure out a comfortable change. You might be surprised that after evaluating the why and what of your vice, the change should come naturally.

Whatever physical vice you have in your life that is a roadblock for you and your Sexy, Fun loving self, I want you to focus on it this week. Devise a plan of attack and make a change. Even if it is to only clean out 1 cabinet or 1 drawer, or to only walk to the mailbox one time instead of driving, make one change and see how good it feels to be beginning to bring out the burlesque woman hidden inside you!

Frivolous PINKY DARE of the week: make your own glamour dust (glitter, chocolate sprinkles, a water bottle full of refreshing smelling water). Sprinkle it in your hair everyday. If you are bold enough, sprinkle it in the hair of those you encounter this week and bid them to have more fun in their life.

Unleash the Pink #1

Let us start Unleashing the Pink!

This week I PINKY DARE you to make your own collage. Collect items, pictures, notes that all represent qualities you admire or you want to strengthen within your own self. Qualities may include but are not limited to love, integrity, passion, charisma, loyalty, happiness. Each memento on your collage should represent a quality to YOU. You can personalize this collage to your own desires. It can be magazine cutouts, glitter, fabric, photographs, it does not matter as long as it represents you and you alone. Then each day this week, take a moment to look at your collage. Focus on the pictorial representations of the qualities you have chosen and begin to fashion ways to integrate these qualities into your everyday life. For example, if you choose courage as one of your qualities, then pick a day and time and attempt something that would require you to use courage. Walking in to a new place alone, finally sending that manuscript to the publisher, cooking without the recipe. Only you know what it is you want to do. Use this collage as a pictorial starting line and Get it girl!!

This week I also PINKY DARE you to do something fun and frivolous. I PINKY DARE you to do something "bad", even if it is temporary. Get a temporary tattoo and put it somewhere risque, Cut your hair in a style you have always wanted to try or put a streak of blue in your hair, wear bright red lipstick just to check the mail, go ahead and wear that naughty new undergarment to the market and then tell your husband about it, while wearing it still, over dinner. Whatever it is, do something out of the ordinary for you this week that makes you feel like you might be breaking the rules.

Good luck ladies. Now I am going to go and Unleash the Pink myself!

Need a refresher on what is going on? Read this: Where did that Sexy, Daring, Fun loving chick go?

*This weeks Pinky Dare was modeled after some fabulous techniques I found in the wonderful book I Am Diva! *

Where did that Sexy, Daring, Fun loving chick go?

When I meet new people they are often captivated by the sight of my hair. The 31 year old mom, with hot pink hair grabs their attention and I can see a flood of emotions in their eyes. Envy, distaste, wonder, happiness. The emotions vary but the stares do not. I have many people, new friends and old friends alike, that greet my hot pink hair with a “I wish I could do something like that.” I am always appalled and wonder and even more often say, “Well Why can’t you?” Sure, Sure not everyone out there is in the market for a head full of pink hair, but I know many women out there would like to do something daring, like a hidden tattoo, wear sexy lingerie, or even put a stripe of loud color in their hair, but these women do not do it. Not only do they not do it, but they also lack they confidence to do this. Why is that? Why are we so afraid to do something bold, daring or sexy for ourselves, as a woman?

So who are these women? Well they are you and me. They are moms. I have learned that as we jump head first into the wonderful world of motherhood, we are often tackled with a loss of confidence. We loose or sense of sexy, our daring youth personalities and we slip into the cliche age of motherhood. We find ourselves unable to walk into a gym and climb up on a treadmill because we are too ashamed as to what all the other people will think of us. Why? Because we think we have let ourselves go, and when we see our self in the mirror we no longer see the sexy person inside. We allow ourselves to slip into motherhood and we loose all regard for ourselves. The idea of getting up and getting dressed in something other than stretchy pants and ponytails is something of the past. We slowly drift away into the background even when we are looking at ourselves in the mirror.

Why does this happen? How is it that a woman who is incredibly confident in herself allow the sexy, daring, fun loving talent within her to diminish as she open heartily raises children. Sure our confidence level soars in regards to our kids; fighting for whats right in terms of our children is first on the line for all of us, but why does the confidence in our personal selves fade away? Why is it so difficult for us to find ourselves sexy, daring, and fun loving after entering motherhood?

Well I am tired of it! And I am going to do something about it! I know you are probably thinking, “But Pink Haired Momma, you have the pink hair, how are you lacking in confidence?” Believe me, I feel the lack of confidence just as much as you. I find myself feeling insecure and un sexy. I find myself not having the DARE about me anymore. I am guilty of stretchy pants and ponytails, everyday. But not anymore. Starting this week I am implementing Unleash the Pink and I am making a change. And I am going to challenge all of you, my fabulous readers who are feeling a little less than sexy and daring, to do the same thing ; YOU, my friend, can Unleash the Pink!

Every Thursday from here on out I will provide us with a PINKY DARE for the week that will help us regain our confidence as not only mothers, but as Sexy, Daring, Fun loving, Confident women. I promise you I am not pulling crap out of my ass in the making of these exercises. They are tried and true techniques that I have used in the past, or have researched or will research before prompting us and will put us to the test. After the PINKY DARE posts on Thursday, we all have 7 days to complete the task. Then as the new PINKY DARE jolts into our life 7 days later, we can share our accomplishments and reflect with one another on how we are becoming the woman we once knew. In no time I believe we will begin to feel a difference and some of you may end up with pink hair, I hope!

Are you with me? Lets Unleash the Pink in all of us!